If a therapeutic massage is what you have
in mind, look elsewhere. For while erotic massage can have it's therapeutic
qualities, the goal is not muscular therapy. To give (or receive.) an
erotic massage can be one of the most fulfilling forms of foreplay available.
You should know, however, that it is also one of the most time consuming.
This one should not be used when time is an issue.
To start out, make sure that you and your
partner are both comfortable and relaxed. You won't stay relaxed for long,
but you should at least start out that way. Remember that the end goal
of the massage is arousal, but the point of the massage is the sensations
along the way.
1. Try to avoid, at least at first, obvious sexual zones.
Turn your entire partners body into an erogenous zone. Touch places that
have never been touched before in a sexual manner.
2. Vary your touch.
Start out with a light finger dusting, and then change to a deeper reaching
touch. A light scraping of your nails can raise Goosebumps and pleasure.
3. Use all tools available on your person.
Your tongue, breath, and hair can all be effective. The most erotic feelings
can come when your partner is not expecting the touch you are about to
use.
4. Be random.
Don't think that you must cover area A, then area B, then area C in some
set format. Move around from site to site. Again, when your partner does
not know what to expect, arousal is heightened.
5. Obey the Golden Rule:
Do to your partner what you think would feel good to you.
Let things progress naturally, but don't be in a rush to get to the finish
line. Do that, and you'll miss all of the amazing scenery. Explore, touch,
taste, and feel your partner's body in ways that you never have before.
There is pleasure in the process for both the giver and receiver, and
even more pleasure if you take your time.
