There are many different ways of meeting potential
swinging partners and people's approaches vary. One of the most popular
is to place an advertisement on a specialist site on the Internet such as
Lovelounge (see "What about placing an ad in the Personals?" below).
You can also advertise in newspapers and specialist magazines. There are
also various social events, swinging parties and swinging clubs (organised
privately or as a business) and these are advertised by specialist websites
and magazines. A potential downside to this route is that some people feel
intimidated by walking into a group of strangers and you might find it helpful
to get to know some people first. Make sure you know what to expect from
an event. They range from purely social occasions (such as these Loungeparty
"Socials") to full-on action parties. Be reassured though that,
in swinging circles, the etiquette that "no means no" is widely
adhered to and it is very unlikely that someone will try to pressure you
into doing anything with which you are not comfortable.
You will find mainly established male/female couples on the swinging
scene, although, in a few cases, a person will have a "regular"
partner and a different swinging partner. It is more common to find couples
comprising a straight guy and a bisexual girl than a totally bisexual
or heterosexual couple. There are quite a few single men looking for group
experiences and fewer single girls. You may also find two or more couples
with a regular swinging relationship who are looking for others to join
in.