It is very common, especially in the early days
in a new lifestyle such as this, to feel nervous or confused. Don't beat
yourself up over it! The sorts of emotions that arise are very similar to
those that you would experience as a single person meeting a potential new
partner and getting to know them. Also, you will have the added complication
of more people involved and that you are experiencing these things, in most
cases, as a couple. Remember also that you may become intimate sexually
quite quickly with people that you don't know terribly well in other respects.
It is to be expected that, at least at first, you will have to deal with
issues such as jealousy, fear of rejection, self-doubt, questioning yourself
and others and swinging is bound to bring up questions about your existing
relationship that had not previously occurred to you. However, if you have
good self-esteem and a healthy, open relationship with your partner, you
will deal with any of these negative feelings successfully and you will
probably find that your relationships with yourself and your partner are
enhanced.