The bad news first. According to some estimates, about 30 percent of American men reach orgasm earlier than they'd like to. Decades ago Alfred Kinsey, one of the early famous sex researchers, found that 75% of the men he tested ejaculated within two minutes of vaginal entry. Pretty quick, don't you think? Yeah, well, I can remember when I regularly beat that record.

The good news is that this sad situation motivated sex therapists to develop successful solutions to premature ejaculation. And it spurred us Tantric folks to study the ancient texts for powerful secrets of mastering our orgasms. I've tried them all and some work tremendously. So I wrote an electronic book to share my experience with others who want to last longer.

But there's more bad news. These traditional techniques of male orgasm mastery concentrate on control. Control requires always being careful. This puts you on guard and under constant tension. That kind of therapy is decidedly non-Tantric because you end up wound tighter than a spring. If you know anything about the ancient art and science of sacred sexuality, you must be aware that Tantra teaches us to relax, enjoy, and not resist. Besides, springs easily pop off if you tweak them, right? That's what we want to overcome.

Let's Change Your Life Forever

When I set out to learn to last longer myself, I sought a pleasure-positive method that worked Tantrically. That's what started me reading, practicing, and developing Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. This volume is really my story about my love relationship with vajra (Tantric for penis), about creating more and more pleasure, and mastering vajras ups and downs. I wrote this book so that you can become an orgasm master too. It's about how you can be at choice about cuming when you want to, or not. It's about you enjoying undreamed of pleasure for amazingly long periods of time.

As I say in Chapter 1:

"The first thing you need to believe when you embark on the path of Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is that there's nothing wrong with you. Cuming is a good thing. OK, it doesn't always happen when you want it to. Just consider it a timing problem. In the overwhelming majority of cases, you can change your timing with training. I know because I did.

"If you choose this path, you're going to discover (if you don't already know) that ejaculation doesn't always have to accompany orgasm. That's how those who've learned these techniques have multiple orgasms, pleasurable spasm after spasm that go on and on without the squirting that for most of us ends the playtime."

Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery goes into depth about the ten major causes of premature ejaculation. But for most of us, it's simply a learning gap that we can easily correct. We've been conditioned so that when we get turned on, something inside takes over and convinces us to just let go. I call that the "urge to cum." You can easily master this urge if you do the practices in my book.

For a microsecond I don't want to give you the idea that there's anything wrong with this urge. The craving for pleasure is how we celebrate life in Tantra.

Inner Orgasm, Really?

Chapter 1 continues:

"As a result of over 30 years helping people change their behavior, I'm convinced that few succeed at stopping something they don't want to do, like cuming. The secret is to replace what you don't want with something better. Fortunately, Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery teaches something so much better that once you develop the knack of inner orgasm from the exercises in this book, you'll never want to go back to spraying your seed outside indiscriminately.

"Inner orgasm, is that anything like inner tennis or golf? No, not really."

You're familiar I'm sure with the outer explosive orgasm: the very pleasurable ten-second involuntary muscle contractions accompanied by releasing semen to the outside world. Believe it or not, it's quite possible to make those involuntary muscle contractions respond to your power of choice. So you get the fun without the wetness.

Regardless of what's causing your desire to make a change in your lovemaking skills, energy is at the root of it. When Tantrikas refer to energy, we mean the nervous stimulation and physical excitation that feels like an electric current or magnetic field running through your body. Tantra practice is all about how to conjure up sexual energy and circulate it. Why bother learning how to channel energy? Because if it all stays in your cock, the easiest place to move is outwards, and it makes you cum. Disperse it and you feel great all over without a sudden big gush.

Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery teaches you to separate ejaculation from orgasm by infusing your whole body with that glorious energy. When you learn the orgasm mastery formula, you can avoid the contractions that initiate the emission of semen. When you're super turned on, you can still have those pelvic muscle contractions that feel so wonderful. That's what causes a dry or energy orgasm, a long series of slow pleasurable spasms with a rush of energy without ejaculating. I call these inner or implosive orgasms because you pump the energy back inside, circulate it over and over again, and reach higher and higher peaks.

Now, here's the best news of all. When I have an inner orgasm, my arousal decreases dramatically. On the other side of that peak, I'm suddenly less sensitive. So I can stroke faster and pump vigorously while my excitement rebuilds slowly. By circulating my energy while I'm peaking, my love stamina is lengthened tremendously. And by repeating this cycle over and over, it becomes virtually unlimited.

The Ultimate Approach

The secret formula of orgasm master presented in detail in Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is RAMPER which stands for..

Relax
Awareness
Measure
Pace yourself
Energy circulation, and
Ride the wave
Relaxing in high states of arousal is the foundation. Tantric lovemaking is typically much slower than the fast pumping you see in porno flicks. Just by going slower you'll be more relaxed. And relaxation lets you open your awareness, heighten your senses, and focus your mind. Focus on what? Why on pleasure in the moment, of course. If you can appreciate how great your vajra feels now, you'll be more willing to relax and go slow.

Chapter 2 explains:

"RAMPER requires you to tune in to your senses and sensations. So what do you do with this sharpened awareness? The M in RAMPER means to monitor and measure your level of arousal. If you know where your excitement level is, then you can play with it while stretching out your enjoyment and your partners'. The forces that turn us on aren't always obvious, and change from time to time. M is all about learning to read yourself so you know where you're at precisely. As you practice, you'll learn to measure your level of arousal as it climbs towards the point of no return.

"P stands for Pacing yourself. It also stands for Pleasure. If your focus is on pleasure not orgasm, then you won't be rushing headlong towards a destination. You won't be in a race towards the finish line. You won't have a schedule to meet. You'll just slow down and enjoy. That's a big part of pacing."

The key to pacing is peaking. Peaking means adjusting the stimuli that give you sudden surges of arousal so you come back down without going over the top. If you graphed peaking, it would look like a steep ascent and then a steep descent. Which is where it got its name.

Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is all about learning to ride the edge of the cliff, that fine line between absorbing all the pleasure you can take, and taking too much all at once and cuming.

The E of RAMPER stands for energy and circulating it away from your genitals. Chapter 2 continues:

"So here's a vital part of your initiation, you lucky stiff. Instead of shooting for the Big O, as your arousal builds, redirect your energy up, around, and throughout your body, allowing it to carry you to higher and higher levels of pleasure. Some say it will fuel your brain with cosmic energy and give you psychedelic visions. Whatever. Not only will it feel ecstatic, but since you won't be depleting your energy, you'll be able to last and last and last."

It's All About Riding The Wave

The last R of RAMPER is about Riding the wave of ecstasy. As Chapter 2 explains:

"That's why the acronym RAMPER is so apt, describing how your pleasure ramps up. Most of us who cum quick never experience these escalating plateaus. We never develop our capacity to absorb more and more pleasure. When you do, it feels like ecstatic waves surging inside."

Once you've experienced a non-stop whole-body inner orgasm, you can understand how the typical male's fascination with squirting a big load pales by comparison. This is why we call Tantric lovemaking sexual meditation.

I hope this brief overview of the Tantric approach to orgasm mastery helps. Unfortunately, in my experience, just reading about RAMPER won't change your life forever. Tantra requires practice to change your habits and energy patterns. That's why Chapters 3 through 7 of Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery are primarily made up of exercises that you do in the privacy of your own bed. There's no room to include them all here, but a sample follows.

Chapters 3 and 4 are about solo practices you can do to learn about your own energy, arousal, and sexual patterns. The second half of the book, beginning with Chapter 5 relies on a partner to develop orgasm mastery. After all, it takes two to Tantra, right? I've included one of the exercises from Chapter 5 where you begin applying these joint skills. This exercise is based on a fundamental Tantric practice, sexual breathing. This is slow rhythmic deep belly breathing accompanied by the sounds and movement you experience during orgasm. Learn this and you'll understand why the breath is such a dominant force in running sexual energy.

Exercise: Partner Breath Peaking

In this practice, you're going to use sexual breathing to spread your excitement away from your hot spots like you did in the solo Breath Peaking exercise.

1) Use a comfortable position for both of you.

2) After preliminaries like talking, relaxing, breathing, and full body sensual massage, ask your partner to begin stroking vajra and your testicles slowly. You decide whether you want your partner to start with a dry or lubricated hand, depending on how sensitive you feel and how well you've been doing with previous mastery exercises.

3) While receiving pleasure, be sure to continue sexual breathing: inhaling slowly and deeply in the belly, rocking your hips, undulating your body, squeezing your sexual muscles, and pumping the energy up your body.

4) When you reach a medium level of excitement, instead of stopping stimulation like you did in earlier exercises, ask your partner to slow down slightly. Open your eyes wide, inhale more deeply into the belly, but this time through the NOSE, and hold your breath.

5) Relax completely as you exhale, visualizing your sexual fire streaming out of vajra, and moaning with pleasure to release energy.

6) Inhale again through the nose, visualizing that pleasurable energy moving up vajra through your pelvis to your heart and higher. Use one long or several short pumps of your pelvic muscles to help you shoot the energy upwards.

7) Can you feel your excitement lessen simply by slowing your breath? Play with it until you can. See how long you can maintain a high peak while you adjust your breathing. Use some of the techniques from Chapter 4 to interrupt ejaculation if you need to. Guide your partner to stop and start stimulation and use subtle adjustments as required.

8) Repeat the exercise five more times at this level of excitement, and then repeat the cycle at increasingly higher levels of arousal.

9) As you practice and get closer and closer to cuming, see if you can back off your arousal level just by slowing and deepening your breath without your partner changing anything. When you can balance on the very edge of the point of no return, you're bound to experience implosive orgasms, where you vibrate inside and stream the energy upward without squirting.

10) Exchange roles and manually pleasure your partner, carefully following the guidance you receive.

Tantric Mastery

Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery culminates in you mastering the ability to ride the wave of Tantric lovemaking. As Chapter 7 explains:

"It's a wave of orgasmic energy, of love bliss, of ecstatic delirium, of spiritual rapture. Once you experience it fully, it will transform your life. Let me warn you, you won't be satisfied with pure animal lust anymore. When you taste your connection to the divine, you will want to stay home in bed, basking in the mindless serenity.

"The moment of orgasm is the closest most people come to communion with their inner being and God. Tantra teaches that this experience is a brief glimpse into our true divine nature: ecstatic in the body, compassionate in the heart, empty in the mind, blissful in the spirit. To get a taste of this exalted condition, just imagine the powerful experience of prolonged and multiple orgasms.

"Tantric Love Play is more like sensuously sipping an expensive Cabernet than chugging a six-pack of brew. It more resembles sampling the delicacies at a gourmet buffet than inhaling a pepperoni pizza during Monday Night Football. It's certainly more like a twilight stroll through a perfumed garden during Spring with your beloved on your arm than running a hundred-yard dash.

"Tantric Love Play is leisurely, savoring every delicious morsel of pleasure, instead of rushing headlong towards maximum turn-on now. Tantric lovers move so slowly, stopping frequently to settle deeply into the rising tide of pleasure, stretching the experience out as long as possible. Releasing tension and giving in to the urge to cum gets replaced with continuous streaming vibrations of ecstatic energy. When we enter the altered state of consciousness that comes with repeated implosive orgasms, we simply want to float in a cloud of bliss together."

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