The second show of the new hit series Swingtown aired last night on CBS. In last nights episode, the newbie swinger couple has time to reflect on their new lifestyle. If you watched the first show, then you already know they explored the experience of swapping partners for sexual fun.

On last nights show, the couple has time to reflect on the experience and find themselves in a new place within their relationship. The wife begins to find herself with some inner turmoil, that being that the thought that her husband wanted other women or that he wasn’t happy with her sexually. The husband doesn’t seem to share the same turmoil as his wife but as the show progresses, he reassures her that she is his one and only love and that swinging is only an added benefit of their relationship

I think this brings out an important point with the swingers lifestyle, that how swingers couples view the first encounter. As studies have shown, women are more geared towards feelings of sharing their husband with another woman. It shows how important it is to communicate with your significant other about your relationship and experiences. Men on the other hand, can compartmentalize the experience, keeping it purely sexual with no other attachments.

I think the show swingtown is not only entertaining but blends the real life swinger experience to a new light. Guys, if you are watching this show, take notes! Gals, if you are watching this show take notes! If you are a new couple looking to start swinging, remember, if you don’t have the trust as a foundation of your relationship, then maybe it isn’t for you.

I would like to hear about your first experience with swinging with other couples. Did you have the same feelings? Did you continue to swing?

I think the best visual about your relationship and first swingers experience was talked about last night. When the husband said “Our relationship is like a snow globe that was just shaken, beautiful before, and beautiful afterwards, but right now a bit shaken or a new place

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How to get I get a response

Ok, this question has been asked many times, so we thought we would offer you
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Men: Not all women want to know the size of your cock right off the bat, maybe
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Swinger Couples: We suggest you not put anything exclusive in your headline,
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As for the ad, well, in a sense you are trying to sell yourself to another.
You are wanting to convince them, that they should take the time to contact you.
So if your ad is three lines, and only talks about your tool, then subconscious
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Well I knew it wouldn’t be long before there was a t.v show about the lifestyle. If you missed all the hype, let me fill you in. On Thursday night, the show “Swingtown” aired in a prime time spot!. The show takes place in the 70’s in suburbia America and surrounds what appears to be an average, conservative American family.

During the course of the show, the couple is about to leave their long time neighborhood and friends behind for a bigger house and more upper class neighborhood. It was then their neighbors stop by to give them a house warming gift and invite them to a “party”. Little did the couple know that it was a swingers party.

Right before they get ready to leave, the old neighbors show up at the door unexpectedly. If you are guessing what happened next, then you are probably right. The neighbors join them in going to the party. On arriving at the party and mingling with other guests, the wife is taken for a tour of the house, where she is given a “lude” and is told about their new neighbors open marriage and how wonderful it is.

You can pretty much guess what happened after that. For a first show, it was pretty good. I think the reason for it being so predictable was that there are many that don’t understand or ever heard of swingers or swinging. But I am giving this show a thumbs up for many reasons. For one, kudos to CBS for having the courage to air this show. Two, it depicted swingers in a good light, not some seedy group of followers. (did you read my last blog?) Three, it had humor, a plot and a few surprises, much more then I can say for most of the shows now on t.v.

Will this show compete with sex in the city?. It might, if the producers continue down the same path as they started, that being, keeping it simple, fun and putting the viewer in the eyes of the actor. Lets face it, there are some who will, there are some who wouldn’t, there are some that want to. I think this show brings all together and may even help those interested in the lifestyle get a better picture of it, even though it is made for t.v. Did you watch the show? If so, leave your comments, we want to hear from you.

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If you have been following our blog, the you already have read about the shawno wisconsins swingers group “Share your secrets club” and how they have been protested and now investigated by a news station in wisconsin. If you haven’t, then let me recap:

The secrets swingers club was protested by a group because of the nature of their parties. For whatever reason, it was determined to be news worthy even though party goers had not broken and local or state laws. From what I have learned, there have been citations for serving alcohol at the parties, as well as after hours infractions. Take into account these are minor violations.

Just when you thought this would be a small blurb in the news, here comes a news crew, doing an undercover investigation into a what they called a religous cult, maybe not in those terms but in reporting the story, they referred to the people as followers. It wasn’t until they learned that a hotel owned by the supposed group leader was being rented out by secrets swingers club that they again decided to bring the club into the lime light.

The group organized a party, made the arrangements to take over the hotel, made it very clear on their website that it was a private party. The owners of the club required registration, the hotel posted a “Private Party” sign outside the premises and covered all the windows with curtains. The door was monitored by organizers and it appeared that all bases had been covered

The local news station then decides to take a hidden camera into the party, and began asking questions, posing themselves as new lifestylers. It is unclear how or why they were let in the door without verification of their registration. However, after a period of time, they were asked if they had registered and then asked to leave the party when organizers found they were not.

Having given alot of thought to the original story, and possible angels of the story. I found myself a bit offended by the lack of judgement on behalf of the news station. It was one thing to crash and film the party, it was another to include it in their report even after they found out that the swingers club had no ties to the religous cult they were investigating. (Other then renting the motel). You maybe asking yourself “what’s the big deal?”. Well, let me explain. Had this been a public party, had it been open to all without invitation or registration, had the group been linked to their investigation, then I wouldn’t be writing today.

What did they accomplish? Well, they filmed people who may be professionals in the community, they may have taken away social status from adults who only wanted to enjoy the lifestyle privately and among those with like minds. What about the family aspect? I am in no way saying we should be embarrassed by our lifestyle choice, but, we should be able to do it privately and only let those know whom we wish to know about it. In my minds eye, this was reckless journalism for the sake of making a story interesting. I guess sex does sell, but at what cost?

One of our employees decided to write the reporter and ask a few questions. He was then referred to the station manager. He has not yet decided to respond. I will post the letter to the manager here and if they decide to reply, we will post the answers to any of our questions. In the meantime, we want to hear from you! The letter is as follows

Dear Friend,

I recently contacted the reporter doing the story about the investigation into a religous cult in shawno. I have reviewed the footage and story via your website. I asked a few questions of the reporter and was referred to you and the website for answers. I would like to be able to post the questions and any answers you may have to our blog.

First let me say I am not a member of neither group. My interest soley is on the aspect you brought into the story in part three of the story, that is, the swingers party. Also, I have no legal degree, I am only seeking answers to my questions.

After viewing parts 1 and 2 of the mentioned story, I didn’t see anything linking the gentlemen to the shawno based swingers group other then the motel, which I am sure is used by various groups.

1) What were you hoping to find when you sent your reporter into party?

2) You entered a private party, uninvited, unregistered (admittedly) with a video camera. Do you feel you violated anyones civil rights?

3) Did you get the authorization from those attending the party to show them on camera before airing the story?

4) Did you know that cameras are not allowed into parties, unless expressly consented?

5) Isn’t it illegal to photograph or video tape someone without their consent when the act takes place within the confines of a private premise? (sign outside said “private party” windows were covered.)

6) Do you now feel that there is no connection to the swingers group and religous group that you initially investigated?

7) Do you believe that your story in a way cast negative attention to a lifestyle that is about personal freedom and choice by blanketing it with the original story?

9) Did you do any prior research to the lifestyle and how people interact and determine if it was relevant to the original investigation?

As I said, I have no affiliation with either group, the issue I have is that when you air a story, using terms such as followers, in a story about swingers, you are lumping a tremendous amount of people into something they have nothing to do with. From my point of view it was reckless and in bad judgement to possibly damage peoples careers or social standing by including something in your story that had nothing to do with the original story. What I mean by this is, people in the lifestyle don’t go around and tell everyone they know, they are in it.

Had you found something going on at the party that would have indicated wrong doings, I would understand. But you didn’t. You found a group of consenting adults enjoying themselves. It should have never been included in the story as you had no justification for doing so. I look forward to any answers you may have and I appreciate you taking the time to read this. I wish you the best of luck with your journalism but I hope in the future you avoid turning innocent adults into victims in the name of making a story interesting.

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Just about everyday there seems to be a news story about a swingers club being protested for one reason or another. Though these protests vary in location, those who are protesting seem to be of the same mindset. I could be wrong but I do not know of a single U.S state that has made it illegal for consenting adults to have sex.

It is not prostitution, it is not un- consentual, it is not displayed in the public arena for all to see. So what is the harm? Why is that those who do not believe the lifestyle is for them, feel the need to take it away from those who do? As you can see, a few stories from our blog point out a few protests, even city ordinances being implemented in order to stop swingers from doing what they enjoy. Is it that we have a conditional constitution? Where does it state, you have the right to gather but only if that’s all you do.

I’ve never heard of anyone protesting a church on a Sunday. They also pass a collection plate around to accept donations. I’m sure the donations are used to maintain the church, pay the pastor and help the church continue on. So I have no problem with that. Now I’ve been to church a few times, they sing, some dance and yes they have refreshments afterwards, everyone enjoys themselves. Some churches venture out into the public and knock on doors to spread the word. Now lets compare.

A swingers club is a group of consenting people that have gathered in a building for the same purpose. That is to meet other like minded people for socializing or yes even sex. But not everyone is allowed into these clubs. You must be 18 and in some cases 21 to enter, some restrict their club to couples only, some cater to both singles and couples. The windows are closed, some even darkened, the door is monitored and most clubs accept donations or have a membership fee for entrance. Lets face it, nothing is free these days. The building has property taxes, maintenance, lights,heat and whatever else. Is it wrong that everyone takes a bit of responsibility in helping out?

Swingers clubs can be a regular on-premise building (meaning like a hall equipped for pleasure), or someones house that swingers gather at. I still don’t see an issue with either one. Who is it harming? Unless you live in an apartment and you are throwing parties, then let people enjoy themselves. If the swingers party is not loud, disorderly or in any way disturbing your personal enjoyment in your own house, then stay home, read a paper or become more informed about the lifestyle.

It’s time for society to become more accepting about the personal choices of others, whether it be sexuality or choice of lifestyle. If you have never been to a swingers club or have been around a group of swingers, then you’d never know that they are one of the rare groups that do not judge others about their looks or sexuality. Everyone is happy and relaxed. Maybe that’s what those protesting see or feel when a swingers club opens in their area, they are angry because someone else is something they are not, and that is happy.

I’d like to hear your comments and experiences on this subject. Make sure to leave me a comment.

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