"Actions speak louder than words" is a good saying but
sometimes is not enough. Especially in the bedroom. Talking dirty with your
partner is not only a turn on but is the only way of leting them know what you
want sexually. But - this is easier said then done. Talking dirty is not about
what you see on porn films. The corniness, the swearing, but about feeling loved,
sexy, wanted. Follow these and you won`t know why you ever doubted yourself.
"I really liked that"
To get use to talking about sex the best time is after you have had sex. Why
after sex you might ask. Well you have just had sex so you have something dirty
to talk about. For example, "I loved the way you were kissing me while`st
your penis was inside me." (You can call his bits what ever you feel comfortable
with.) This is not only complimentaing him but it is telling him what you like
and is guarenteed a second round of sex.
"Talk dirty to me"
While having sex ask him to talk dirty to you. This will suprise him in a pleasant
way and if he is a bit shy or doesn`t know how to then this is your cue to talk
dirty to him. On the other hand if he does talk dirty and you like what he is
saying follow suit and talk back to him telling him what you like and what you
want him to do to you.
Use your hands
When sitting together at dinner perhaps, stroke his leg and tell him what you
would like him to do to you or what you would like to do to him. This works
best when you are eating out, because he will have to wait to get you home to
get to business.
Give him a call
Phone your guy up and tell him waht you want to do to him and the other way
round. Phone him during office hours say just after lunch. He will be sweating
in his pants and will have him on a high all day.
A short note
If you are still not confident enough to talk dirty to him then write him a
short note telling him what you want. In a letter you can be as explicit as
you like and can write the way you know he would like to hear it.