This article is written by Silvia Summers who has been in the lifestyle for 10 years and will give her perspective and insights and experiences surrounding swinging. http://www.playpartner.com/

In last week's article, I talked discussed "Planning the Perfect Swingers' Party Part 1". This week, I'm going to focus on planning the perfect Swingers' party part 2.

Last week we went through the basic who, what, where, whens' of planning a perfect swingers party. This week, we are going to take a more in depth look of the "where" portion of having a swingers party. You should keep in mind that if you are inviting more then 20 guests, that the business or place that you are having the party will accommodate the number of guests. I suggested that you rent adjoining rooms in a hotel or motel to help spread the party out a bit which will cut down on the crowded feeling atmosphere. I know this sounds a bit costly; this is why I suggested an R.S.V.P with a party donation. But more times then not people are willing to attend and help pay for a well organized party. Now let's go through what I believe to be a great party/room set up.

The Social Room: The Social Room should be the very first room that members of your party should come to when they arrive. As the host of the party, be sure that you and your spouse are there to greet guests as they arrive. When greeting your guests, make sure they are on your list and if they are not, you will need to decide if you are going to allow them entrance into your party. Also, if suspect anyone attending your party is too young; you will want to ask them for I.D as this is an Adult Party. Be cordial and as they enter, let them know of the rooms set up and how the party will take place. If they are experienced party goers then they will understand. If not they will be nervous and won't know what to expect so try to answer questions they may not ask in general conversation. The Social Room should be for guests who arrive or for those wishing to carry on conversations, contain the beverages and or snacks along with any music you wish to have playing.
The Dressing/Undressing Room: If possible, this room should be the second adjoining room to the social room. This will be where people can get dressed or undressed to continue onto the rest of the party. If you notice a guest has brought their purse, you might suggest that they take it back to their car as other guests will be using the same room to get undressed at and that you are not responsible for anything lost or stolen during the party. You won't expect people to walk around naked all the time, but we will get into party attire in next weeks article.

The Play Room/Rooms: I use Rooms as plural as it depends on the size of your party. The perfect party would be a group of people who rent the entire floor of the hotel, where all rooms are either adjoined or close enough to one another to be quickly accessed. These will be the rooms where couples or singles will be able to play with one another in various situations, whether it is group sex, threesomes, swapping or watching others in action. These are the rooms that I would put the condom jars and special trash cans in. Remember SAFE SEX is not an option but a requirement, also NO means NO. I've been to many parties where the play rooms included a hot tub. It sounds great, but if you do have a room with a hot tub, be sure to let your guests no that there is no sex in the hot tubs. Without going into the details, let's just use hygiene as the excuse for this.

Music: Unless you have one huge room, it is a great idea to have different music playing in each one for atmosphere. The music shouldn't be loud to where people have to talk over it to hear one another but it should be loud enough to be heard in the background. The televisions in many hotels will have music channels that you can pick something that will accommodate and not offend your guests. Try to find something to suite the room.

Games: Your Social Room is a good place to play sexy games with your guests. Some suggestions would be sex trivia or the like. Something that is light, fun and isn't difficult or biased to one gender or the other. Offer token gifts for winners, like flavored condoms, edible underwear, generally inexpensive gifts. A novel idea is also to have a sexiest couple contest, where each couple receives a ballot when they enter and before the end of the night, the votes are counted and a winner is found. This will encourage guests to come as sexy as they can be.
Beverages: If you are going to allow alcohol at your party, you should keep in mind that this will heat things up in more ways then you can imagine. In this case, you will need to keep an eye out for anyone beginning to get a bit too drunk, you do not want a fight at your party as that will surely be the end of the evening for all involved. So stress that anyone planning on drinking will need to maintain and understand that if you feel they are to drunk, they will be asked to leave or go to a designated room to sleep it off or sober up.

I received a lot of email after lasts weeks question and answer section. Thank you! I love all the positive feedback that is coming, keep it coming! Now onto this weeks question:

Q: Dear Silvia, My husband and I have been together now 8 years. I have fantasies of watching him with another woman while I masturbate as well as being with multiple men at the same time. I am unsure of how he would react to these suggestions as well as how I would if they were to become a reality. Have you had any of these experiences or can you give me some advice?

A: Great Question! Thanks for the question Sue. It sounds like you are curious about different situations involving your husband. I have to assume that you have swapped with other couples or have a personals ad up looking for others. But you should first ask yourself if this is something you want or just want to fantasize about. If it is something you want, be open and honest with your husband. Let him know that it isn't a must but it is something you would like to try. By doing this, it will put a bug in his ear and give him something to think about, don't push for an answer or immediate reaction, give it time to sink in. Now onto the second part of your question, Yes, I have had the experience of watching him and another woman having sex. I masturbated as they had sex. They included me by talking to me throughout and that made it even more erotic for me. I have also had three men in bed with me at the same time. This was a lot of fun, and also a lot of work! If you are not into double penetration then I would only suggest having two men at the same time. I hope this answers your question

Make sure to check me out next week when we discuss planning the perfect swingers party, this will part 3of 3! If you have a question that you'd like answered, send me an email at Silvia at playpartner.com, until then happy Swinging!

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