This article is written by Silvia Summers who has been in the lifestyle for 10 years and will give her perspective and insights and experiences surrounding swinging. http://www.playpartner.com/

In last week's article, I talked discussed "Swingers and the Male, female, Male Threesome". This week, I'm going to focus on planning the perfect Swingers' party.

So you want to plan a party huh? I've been to many Swingers' clubs and have also attended a few Swingers' parties. These can be some of the hottest swingers' events to attend. But you have to keep in mind a few things before saying "Hey lets get together and have a swingers party" and try to put it together quickly. It takes a bit of thought and an imagination to have a successful party. I will take you through the basics and give you some helpful advice, remember the objective is to have fun!

Who should I invite? I would strongly advise that you create a guest list of those you wish to attend the party, rather then leave it open to all. The reason I say this is because you would probably end up with an unbalanced ratio of men to women etc, which would make it a bit awkward for some. If you have a personals ad up within the community, contact the webmaster of the site and see if they allow you to post your event on their site for free. Many of them such as playpartner.com will do this for you, but you will need to supply the necessary information (contact info, requirements,time,location) The guests that you invite to your party should be those you are interested in having attend, such as couples only, or couples with third female or male, or even a single swingers event. Be sure to require an R.S.V.P when listing your party so you will have a general idea of how many will attend (if you only want a certain number of people to attend, include that as well)

When is the best time? The majority of people work Monday through Friday so the weekends are the days to get the best turn out for your party. The parties I have attended started around 8pm and lasted till, well some went all night. In either case, you should give a general idea of when the party will end and a set time for it to begin. It also depends on where you are going to have the party as to how long it will last and what time is best to start.

Where? This takes a bit of work. You will need to do some research and put some serious thought into where it will take place. If you are planning to have it at a local hotel, you will want to find one that will accommodate adjoining rooms. If you are open to those that smoke, then remember to get rooms that allow that. This can be costly but if you have a guest list and you let it be known that there will be a door donation required to help deflect the costs of the party it can be a reasonable event. If you plan on holding this party in your home, you will need to take extra precautions with regards to your home.

What should we supply at the party? This is your personal preference, you can list the party as being "bring your own booze (b.y.o.b)" If you want to allow drinking there. As for food, you can supply snacks if you like or you can ask your guests to bring something to pass. It all depends on those attending. I have been to some parties where it was drinking only, but it never hurts to have something to much on as people socialize.

Ideas: You can add your own personal touch to the party to make it stand out from others. By this I mean, think of some creative sexy games for people to take part in. Or supply a dj or music of some sort, just give people something to do and have fun so they will be more at ease and ready to have fun.

Safe Sex: If your event is going to be more then a social gathering, here is a great idea. Stock up on condoms, yes SAFE SEX. You can put out a condom jar and a donation jar to cover the cost. I don't know how many times I have heard at a party "Ugh, I forgot to bring the condoms" and someone is walking around asking others if they have extras" Talk about a turn off. Having said this, have a special trash can for people to throw away packages and their condoms. You really don't want to be walking around and step on one, the mood will soon be gone, not to mention that is disgusting. I'd even put a sign over the can, "Condom Can".

Attire: If you are like me, every time I get ready to go to a swingers club or party, I'm wondering what others will be wearing or what is expected to be worn. Take the guess work out of it for them. Specify in your invitation what is going to be worn by both men and women.

I received a lot of email after lasts weeks question and answer section. Thank you! I love all the positive feedback that is coming, keep it coming! Now onto this weeks question:

Q: Dear Silvia, I am a single male looking to swing with others. I have found it hard to find though willing to swing with. Any suggestions?

A: Great Question! Thanks for the question Matt. Yes single men have a harder time in finding people to swing with. But again, it seems to be getting easier as couples are opening up to new situations. I would suggest that if you have placed a personals ad that you make sure to do the following. First, include a picture of your face and then your body. They know you have a penis but they also want to see the rest of you. Next, make sure your ad is more then just "I want to fuck someone", get into details, share fantasies and SPELL CHECK your ad. Finally, show them you are serious, if possible, become a premium member. People hate wasting their time on those wanting to play email tag or those just wanting pictures. If you are premium member, it shows a personal investment and that your ad is genuine. Make sure to respond to all replies, even if it is a "no thanks".

Make sure to check me out next week when we discuss planning the perfect swingers party, this will part 2 of 3! If you have a question that you'd like answered, send me an email at Silvia at playpartner.com, until then happy Swinging!

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